I am CHOOSING my label, and I am an Overcomer!
CAUTION! Super vulnerable post:
A few weeks ago while at a Conference, and working through an exercise where we had to identify things in our mindsets and then use a tool to trace where that mindset came from something powerful hit me;
I realized I had a mindset that everything HAD to be perfect or that I had to be perfect.
As I dug deeper and continued to ask myself…
Q: Why Jen?
A: …Because it’s too important to succeed. So many people are hurting!
Q: Why Jen?
A: …Because I have to figure it all out, because so many are struggling. I can’t make a mistake because they won’t trust me. They won’t believe it will work for them.
Q: Why?
A: …Because when you make mistakes people stop trusting you.
Q: When did you feel like people didn’t trust you Jen because of a mistake you made?
And as I answered this next question it hit me, at one point in my story I had felt who I was had been misunderstood, my actions, everything, as mistakes were made in one of my toughest seasons. As I made MISTAKES.
And as tears flew from my eyes I realized I had developed a belief that if I made a mistake…that I wasn’t trustworthy.
And THAT was one reason why I continued to be afraid of being transparent with mistakes. DESPITE being someone who had already been so transparent and faced her biggest fears, in writing her first book!!
“Your desires reveal your DESIGN”
...and here I had/have a desire to be fully transparent to HELP PEOPLE, and my own mindsets my own beliefs were at times still holding me back.
That day at the conference, I CHOSE a new belief, after walking myself through the forgiveness of that moment in my past, and I chose to believe I AM TRUSTWORTHY EVEN WHEN I MAKE MISTAKES.
“The things we let our mind believe either BIRTH or DESTROY our dreams”. - Carmen O'Quinn
And sometimes, if you’re like me they can be DESTROYING the very thing that your heart BLEEDS to do more than anything else in this world. Helping people who are hurting. And all the while know the importance of vulnerability and transparency in that, to do that very thing.
If you don’t like what is destroying you friend, you’re the only one who can change it.
It wasn’t until I stopped letting my past dictate my future that it all changed. That I got rid of the labels I had on myself.
CHOOSE YOUR LABEL FRIEND.
If you need someone to believe in YOU, I do friend!!
The label wasn’t where I was at…it’s where I’m going.
Sometimes life can hit you with so many things! Believe me, I get it.
But I am CHOOSING my label, and I am an Overcomer!
P.S. And for those wondering why I keep going back to these same conferences...this is why. The work is never done!
~Jen